Does polygamy still have a place in the modern world?

Polygamy is just another aspect of male domination, in which women are used to satisfy man’s ego. It is also a disguised form of ménage à trois.

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Even the Muslim Holy Book the Quran warns that it will be difficult for a man married to more than one wife to be fair to them. It says, “And if you fear that you will not be able to deal justly with the oppressed women then marry from among them two or three or four, but if you fear you won’t be just, then marry only one.”

Even some Muslim countries have taken measures against polygamy. Morocco is one of the Muslim countries where polygamy has been drastically restricted.

In Polygamy, it can be OK for the husband to be in the “possession” of at least two wives. But is it OK for at least two women to be sharing the same man? Some can argue in free societies, people are free to have more than one partner without being subjected to law suit; so why can it be the same for polygamy?

One of the arguments for polygamy is to save women who can’t get married because they outnumber men. The other is that they can’t support themselves. Marriage is the only means for them to feel safe and respected. These arguments seem obsolete. It is contradictory to the call for equal status between men and women an at the same time it allows men to have more than one wife in the name of preserving traditions which fundamentally can be scrapped and replaced with modern thinking.

In polygamy, marriage is a constant battle for the husband to satisfy both or all his wives as it is a battle for the wives to individually win the heart of their husband.

Governments should outlaw polygamy as it infringes the equal rights between men and women. It doesn’t make sense that a man has the right to have more than one wife; and a woman has the right just to one husband at the same time. As it is inconceivable for a man to share a wife with another man, so the same should apply for a woman forced to share her husband with another woman or other women.

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6 Comments

  1. Hisham said,

    March 1, 2009 at 10:30 am

    I’m personally not shocked by polygamy per say. And I often dislike the condescending tone of many westerners who pose as moralizers when talking about this issue. The problem is really how polygamy is conducted and “regulated.”

    Consent is the buzz word here… the structure of certain societies permit polygamy; others permit Polygyny… no problem with that as long as everybody involved agrees and the rules of the game are clear!

    Without wanting to be cynical, in certain poor societies it’s a form -in fact the only form- of social security.

  2. March 1, 2009 at 12:00 pm

    Actually polygamy can work only in special circumstances, especially when all parties can live in harmony. However, in the majority of cases women detest polygamy which they see just as half marriage or make-believe marriage.

    There are also women who are forced to accept their husbands’ extramarital relations to save their marriage for the sake of the children, for example. This leads to ask which is better polygamy or partners outside marriage.

  3. Ana said,

    April 30, 2009 at 4:08 am

    I agree it is easier for all parties to polygamy, if it is consentual. Sometimes women are forced to accept polygamy, as we don’t want to oppose Allah SWT Who says it is permissible.

    I don’t like to argue the conditions and circumstances of the permissibility of polygamy. I, generally, leave how it is practiced up to my husband. He is the one that has to answer to Allah, as to how he practiced it.

    I am an American Muslim female who lives polygamy in America where it is “illegal,” but I try to live Allah’s law-Alhamdiallah- and try not to fear man.

    I established a blog-polygamy411.com- to help women cope with living polygamy. Abdelilah Boukili in Moroco is correct when he stated, “the majority of cases women detest polygamy.” I feel my husband’s life with his other “wife” is “make-believe marriage.” I’m trying to come to terms with it all, with myself and Allah, with support of others.

    I pray Allah will allow me to accept His decisions with enthusiam and leave Him alone to deal with His servants that He created bear and alone.

    Ana

  4. Ana said,

    April 30, 2009 at 6:37 am

    You should be ashamed of yourself to ask people to blaspheme Allah by speaking against Him. The Quran is not obsolete. It was written for all men for all time, whether you were chosen by Allah to be a Believer and obide by it or not.

    If a man wants to marry a woman just to sex her up and get his jollies off, what business is it of your? You don’t have to stand before Allah and answer for it, unless it’s you, unless you did it.

    What do you want a man to do, if he is one of those men that want to sex up more than one woman. Do you want him to fornicate or commit adultry.

    You sound like an agent of Satan.

    Yes. As a woman, I’m having a extremely difficult time living polygamy, but that’s MY TEST.

    Does polygamy still have a place in the Modern World? Yes. Because Allah says so.

    So you need to go find yourself another question and stop leading people astray….

  5. ibtissam said,

    May 5, 2009 at 5:02 pm

    la polygamie ? interessant sujet. Moi je suis d’accord avec si elle sauve à la fois le couple et le mari. Un homme qui se trouve craignant l’aldultère faute d’insatisfaction avec sa 1ère femme a le droit à la polygamie. En effet ,certain mari aime leur épouse mais n’ose ni de divorcer par amour à celle ci et à la fois pour éviter sa blessure se trouve dans la polygamie.
    Cependant ,il serait souhaitable que le mari soit bien intelligent et honnete à bien préparer sa 1ère femme à cette situation ,lui expliquer le pourquoi des choses. La femme est de nature sensible.
    Mais un homme sans aucune raison valable se dirige vers la polygamie sous pretexte que Dieu le lui tolère ,ca je ne suis d’accord.
    Je ne sais si le faite de l’interdire est religieusement aujourd’hui possible. Aujourd’hui ,les textes vont vers d’avantage de rigeur et il n’est plus facile pour les hommes de n’en faire qu’à leur tete.La répudiation systématique n’existe plus.

  6. ibtissam said,

    May 5, 2009 at 5:02 pm

    la polygamie ? interessant sujet. Moi je suis d’accord avec si elle sauve à la fois le couple et le mari. Un homme qui se trouve craignant l’aldultère faute d’insatisfaction avec sa 1ère femme a le droit à la polygamie. En effet ,certain mari aime leur épouse mais n’ose ni de divorcer par amour à celle ci et à la fois pour éviter sa blessure se trouve dans la polygamie.
    Cependant ,il serait souhaitable que le mari soit bien intelligent et honnete à bien préparer sa 1ère femme à cette situation ,lui expliquer le pourquoi des choses. La femme est de nature sensible.
    Mais un homme sans aucune raison valable se dirige vers la polygamie sous pretexte que Dieu le lui tolère ,ca je ne suis d’accord.
    Je ne sais si le faite de l’interdire est religieusement aujourd’hui possible. Aujourd’hui ,les textes vont vers d’avantage de rigueur et il n’est plus facile pour les hommes de n’en faire qu’à leur tete.La répudiation systématique n’existe plus.


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